It’s the Sudden Things…

After some thought and prayer, I’m sharing one of those “heart on my sleeve” posts. So bear with me a little while,if you would.

I shared some thoughts in an e-mail with my DestinySurvival Dispatch subscribers about how sudden things catch us off guard. I was in a reflective mood because I had a funeral to go to in the afternoon.

For my family the events of the last two days of June 2012 were colored by the death of a young lady who was like a little sister to our two children. Mary B. was 18. We’ve known her family since she was a little girl. She was an only child.

On Friday, June 29th, she suffered severe head injuries from a one car accident on a rural road. She died the next afternoon from the head trauma. Sadly, that day was my wife’s birthday–one she’ll never forget. If Mary had lived, she would never have been the same sparkling personality we knew and loved, due to the extent of her brain injuries.

When I wrote to my e-mail subscribers, I said, “If prayer is part of your lifestyle, please say a prayer for [Mary’s] parents. They need the comfort and strength only God can give.”

Three people took the time to write me to say they were praying for Mary’s parents and even for my family. That’s very touching. I’m grateful and humbled.

In times of need, those of us who call ourselves Christians and know Christ as savior can have a bond like no one else can have.

But I digress.

Early in the first week of July, when funeral arrangements were still pending, one of the area radio stations said they’d gotten several calls asking about funeral details. I told my wife I expected a lot of people at Mary’s funeral.

But there were more than I could have ever guessed. The small town church held over 200 and was packed. They had to put chairs in the aisles to accommodate everyone.

Each of the speakers said Mary was full of energy and always had a smile. She had her quirks, too. She was a big fan of Bugs Bunny. Christmas music was for any time of year. She didn’t like pizza. But she put ketchup on ice cream.

Another revelation came as a pleasant surprise. Though Mary received Christ at an early age, I didn’t know about the godly influence she had on others. I saw her as self assured, spunky and unpredictable.

Her youth pastor said she always had a list of prayer requests at youth meetings. At a meeting just days before her death, when he asked if she had prayer requests, she said she had none. Everything on her list had been checked off.

How amazing is that!

I hope a number of those at the funeral will continue to show love and support for her parents. Life goes on without her, of course.

I saw her dad for a while one evening shortly afterward, and he seemed to be doing well. But things are much different now.

If your doctor told you today that you have cancer, that would be hard to take, wouldn’t it? But you’d likely have time to soak it in and adjust to a new reality. You’d make plans.

It’s those sudden things in life we can’t plan for that have the most devastating impact. You know the kind of things I’m talking about.

Things like Mary’s car crash.

Two children and a woman electricuted in separate accidents at the Lake of the Ozarks in one week.

An 18-year-old boy who drowned in the Missouri River.

Homes destroyed in minutes by fires in Colorado.

Powerful storms that knocked out electricity for millions who suffered in the heat for days on end in the eastern U.S.

You can fill in the blanks with more life changing sudden events, I’m sure. Sometimes the consequences are temporary and we bounce back relatively soon. Other times the consequences are permanent.

Like death, which leaves such a gaping vacuum.

James Talmage Stevens, aka Doctor Prepper, talked about such things many times. These kinds of events aren’t the end of the world for everyone. But for those of us immediately affected, it is indeed the end of the world as we’ve known it.

The challenge is to adapt to the new normal.

I truly hope you’re well stocked with prepping supplies to cope with natural disasters and hard times. But even more important, how well prepared are you for those jarring sudden things?

How prepared are you psychologically and spiritually? Do you have a support network of friends and family you can count on? Are you a key part of someone else’s support network?

Those of us who survive sudden things have to live with one another in the aftermath.

When Riverwalker was on DestinySurvival Radio in March of 2012, he pointed out that we need to make the most of the relationships we have now. Find out who you can trust, if you don’t already know. Then cultivate those relationships.

We’re not going to make it through calamity alone.

It’s the sudden things that change things in a very personal way–in this present life–and beyond. You and I can’t know when something sudden–like our own death–will come upon us. So I leave you to ponder one of the most sovering questions of all.

Are you prepared to face eternity?

Author: John Wesley Smith

John Wesley Smith writes and podcasts from his home in Central Missouri. His goal is to help preppers as he continues along his own preparedness journey.

4 thoughts on “It’s the Sudden Things…”

  1. John,

    This is an excellent post, very real, very moving, very thought-provoking. It also makes me stop and take inventory spiritually and go to prayer. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and G-d’s message.

    Vickilynn Haycraft
    Micah 6:8

  2. John,

    My heartfelt prayers to you, your family and Mary’s family.

    I lost my sister when she was only 19 years old so I have some sense of the grief you’re feeling.

    A strong support is essential for getting through tough times.

    Thanks for sharing and for your moving, well-written post.


    1. Thanks Lori. I’m sorry for the loss of your sister. Such things show how much we need those intangible things from God and one another to cope with what life doles out.

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